Masculin Féminin

est un film français de Jean-Luc Godard, sorti en 1966.

Analyse

Paul a 21 ans. C'est un garçon plutôt timide, maladroit, mais soucieux de s'intégrer, de communiquer par tous les moyens possibles. Son camarade Robert est engagé politiquement, sûr de la légitimité de ses convictions, militant enthousiaste qui se trouve mal à l'aise avec les autres dès qu'il ne s'agit plus de changer le monde.

Madeleine, qui veut devenir chanteuse, a le même âge que les deux garçons; elle est un produit parfait de la société de consommation dont elle suit aveuglément les modes et à toutes les sollicitations de laquelle elle se conforme. Plus effacée, Élisabeth est un peu le double de Madeleine, qu'elle jalouse pour son aisance et l'attrait qu'elle exerce sur les garçons. Quant à Catherine-Isabelle, elle apparaît par son sérieux assez proche de Robert, qui a un faible pour elle. Mais c'est Paul qui l'attire alors que celui-ci n'a d'yeux que pour Madeleine. Ces jeunes, ces "enfants de Marx et de Coca-Cola", sont confrontés aux problèmes du monde des années soixante : la violence quotidienne, la guerre du Vietnam, la révolution sexuelle, le racisme, la confusion des valeurs.

La vie leur pose plus d'inquiétantes questions qu'elle ne leur propose de réponses rassurantes. Et lorsque Madeleine, après la mort, accident ou suicide, de Paul dont elle est enceinte, répond : "J'hésite... j'hésite " au policier qui lui demande si elle gardera son enfant elle reflète alors l'angoisse de toute une jeunesse face à son avenir.

Le titre complet du film prétend montrer "15 faits précis" annoncés par des cartons. Ces derniers sont aussi utilisés à des fins de commentaire et l'un d'entre eux livre la célébrissime formule qui servira de définition à toute une génération hésitante entre une conscience politisée et l'insouciance : "Les enfants de Marx et du coca cola. Comprenne qui voudra." Un autre dit : "Le philosophe et le cinéaste ont en commun une certaine manière d'être, une certaine vue du monde qui est celle d'une génération". Perce là l'idée de Godard selon laquelle le monde n'est beau que si on arrive à le penser. Le philosophe pense en donnant du sens, le cinéaste pense en donnant une forme. Le but est de présenter la trace de l'effort vers la saisie de ce réel. Il faut faire rendre gorge à la réalité comme le dit Godard à cette époque.

L'expression des sentiments est donc passé à la moulinette des questions: "Et à quoi vous pensez là ?", "Qu'est ce que c'est pour vous le centre du monde ?". Ces deux phrases sont extraites d'un dialogue amoureux entre Paul et Madeleine. Paul est le questionneur du film : il interwieve "Mademoiselle dix neuf ans", il fait son éducation politique auprès de Robert, son ami syndiqué et sonde la population française. Les commentaires qu'il porte sur cette activité peuvent se rapporter au film :

"Peu à peu (...) je m'aperçu que toutes ces questions au lieu de refléter une mentalité collective la trahissait et la déformait. A mon manque d'objectivité même inconscient, correspondait en effet la plupart du temps, un inévitable défaut de sincérité chez ceux que j'interrogeais."

La perplexité du cinéaste par rapport aux moyens d'investigation mis en oeuvre dans les films est ici évidente. Le constat de Paul est bien celui de Godard quand, juste avant l'interrogatoire où l'on apprend sa mort, il conclura sa confession par ses mots: "La sagesse, ça serait si on pouvait vraiment voir la vie, vraiment voir. Ca serait ça la sagesse."

romantismo utópico... merda.

Radiografia

Nunca estamos bem. Nem sozinhos nem acompanhados. Nestas últimas semanas senti uma enorme necessidade de estar com alguém, aquela alguém me levasse a esse estado de sentir bem. Pensei no passado, especialmente em pessoas que perdi porque achava que não lembravam esse sentir bem, e nas outras em que o senti, mas com quem nunca tive a oportunidade de prolongar esse sentir bem...

Nos últimos dias pensei muito sobre isso. Mas será assim tão mau estar sozinho? Sem o sentir bem também. Sentimos que estamos a perder tempo. Mas já nem isso me preocupa. Já nada me faz correr nem sair de mim. Acomodei-me. Não às cavalitas de alguém, mas sozinho. Habituei-me demasiado a mim próprio. Tornei-me demasiado solitário, demasiado indiferente, demasiado criterioso e idealista. Ninguém me parece preencher e fazer sentir bem, nem eu pareço preencher quem eu gostaria que fizesse sentir bem...

Não consigo dormir. Nunca. Nasce o dia, espero mais um pouco, deito-me e não consigo adormecer. Penso demasiado, gostava de poder desligar o cérebro. Mesmo quando adormeço, sonho com quem já não quero, com quem já não existe. Penso em inúmeros problemas, entre os quais a falta de sentir bem.

Daí o impulso. Daí a necessidade de projectar os meus remorsos de culpa, o meu excesso de pensar em alguém. É por isso que acontece. Não porque estivesse convencido que responderia, mas simplesmente porque talvez assim transfira o ónus e o meu pensamento me dê descanso e me deixe em paz. Mas não dá. Sim, sei que sou transparente, que nunca responderia. E depois? Fiz aquilo que tinha que fazer, tal como ela escreveu da forma como achou que devia. Poderia dizer que preferiria que não respondesse, mas seria mentira. Poderia dizer tantas coisas, mas nada disso resolveria os meus problemas. Tenho saudades de saber o que era sentir-me bem...

(Talvez simplesmente porque contigo havia esse sentir bem...)

Signs your date isn’t The One (Bob Strauss)

By Bob Strauss

Despite what you’ve been taught in school, that small voice in the back of your mind isn’t necessarily your conscience—it may be the last fully functioning piece of your brain, desperately trying to tell you that the guy or gal you’ve been seeing isn’t even close to being your soul mate. As unwelcome as this conclusion is, isn’t it better to come to it by yourself rather than being lectured about it by an expert? No? Well, in that case, read on for a list of signs that it’s time to get back into the trenches and continue that trudge toward true love.

Your date is devoted to another. “On a regular basis, he spoke to his mother more than he did to me,” says Bethany from Minneapolis. “He talked to her every day, and then he would compare me to her. She has him on such a short leash that he hasn’t ever made a major decision without her!”

Your date overspends, and you’re stingy. “If she shops to make herself feel good, and he feels better when money is saved for the future, look out: Irritation, frustration, and arguments can result,” says Rita Benasutti, Ph.D., a therapist in Boca Raton, FL. In other words: Get out now, while your credit-card balance is still manageable.

Your politics are too different. Although there are some famous liberal/conservative couples out there, “If you have opposite ideologies, it’s usually a deal-breaker,” says John Seeley, author of Get Unstuck! The Simple Guide to Restart Your Life. So, “if you find yourself saying things like ‘I can’t believe you voted for him’ or ‘I can’t even kiss someone who likes that person,’” it’s time to move on.

Your sweetie just doesn’t get your jokes. Take it from me: If that obscure Monty Python reference provokes polite but uncomprehending giggles on a first date, it’ll be met with frosty silence six months down the road. The same formula applies if she thinks Garrison Keillor is hilarious, while you’re like Homer Simpson banging on the TV set and shouting “Be more funny!”

Commitment-wise, your date just isn’t there yet. “I met someone over a year ago, and we really hit it off,” says Michele from Atlanta. “He would call me from work daily, saying that he missed me and couldn’t wait to see me again. But the closer we got, the more he started to pull back. Finally, I threw in the towel, realizing that even though we were compatible in many ways, he was not emotionally ready for a relationship.”

Your honey wants kids, and you don’t. Or vice versa. “Often a person is so happy to find The One that he assumes love, marriage, and having children go together, but for the other person, being a twosome and being in love is enough,” says Dr. Benasutti. “It’s a good idea to have a serious heart-to-heart talk with your potential mate to understand his perspective.”

Your tastes are too different. “The number-one reason for failed relationships is what I call ‘refinement incompatibility,’” says Zannah Hackett, author of The Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking. “Some of us are content to go camping, while others can’t survive outside a Ritz-Carlton hotel room. Some things are negotiable, but refinement incompatibility is not one of them, no matter how magnetically attracted you are to each other.”

Your lifestyles are too different. If you’re a corporate exec pulling in six figures a year, you’ve probably figured out by now whether you can tolerate a guy who earns an order of magnitude less in terms of his salary. No harm, no foul: Pulling out now is better than leading him along (or unexpectedly sticking him with the tab at that expensive restaurant).

There’s no oomph. “When we first met, the sexual attraction wasn’t there,” says Lauren from New York of a relationship she had high hopes for... at first. “Sometimes that attraction develops as you get to know a person and start to like him, and sometimes it doesn’t, but it’s very different from instantly having that sexual chemistry when he glances at you for the very first time.”

Your relationship has you on edge. “I believe that The One strengthens you, lifts you up and does not produce anxiety,” says Kathryn Alice, author of Love Will Find You. “When something isn’t right, your intuition keeps trying to let you know by putting nagging doubts in your mind as well as continual anxiety. This is a gut thing, and your gut is rarely wrong.”

Bob Strauss is a New York-based freelance writer and the author of the upcoming Who Knew? Hundreds & Hundreds of Questions & Answers for Curious Minds.

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